The teenage years are especially challenging. And the pressures are endless. It is a time of defining who we are. Hormones are wreaking havoc with our emotions and sanity. There are pressures from school and home to “do well” and make the right choices. There is immense pressure from peers to look, act and think certain ways. And the opinions of our peers really matter because we are defining who we are through their eyes.
Why do many teens withdraw?:
- Sometimes there’s no one in their life that understands what they’re going through
- They would get into trouble if they talked about what was really going on
- They are really, really hurt and it’s too painful to talk about
- They don’t want to burden others with their problems
- People treat them like children and so they aren’t taken seriously
- They don’t know what they want in life… but they don’t really want other people’s opinions either.. They want the answer to come from them.
Why find mentoring for your teen?
- Creates a safe place for them to open up and talk about what’s going on
- We can do Energy Grids to help them understand how they are wired, what they’re really all about, how they are unique, what they might want to do with their lives.
- A lot of emotional issues go on for too long without being addressed which results in depression, eating disorders, anxiety issues, and sometimes even thoughts of suicide. If they have a place where they know it’s OK to talk about anything, they won’t feel so alone or weird or abnormal.
- It’s a great opportunity to learn life skills like meditation, journalling, etc. to help with the hard times
- It’s a great time to strengthen our sense of self – to become strong about what we want out of life – to find our personal path that is truly unique to us.
Mentoring sessions are completely focused on the teen. But if it’s OK with them, parents are welcome to come for a session once in a while to help improve communication and connection.
In the end, mentoring only works where there is rapport. So, if you’re unsure, then it’s best to just have a session and see how it goes. If it’s a fit, then great!
A Note from Katrina: I truly love teens. My heart goes out to them. I personally had difficult teenage years and so I really empathize with the struggle that our kids are going through. It is the age of our lives where we are in-between worlds – more mature than children but lacking the responsibilities of an adult… So they are forever treated as “something in-between”… It’s very confusing for everyone – for the teen and for the parents. So, a little help is always good… for everyone.